Mastering Internet Personality

As technology catch up, more and more people are moving towards the cyber world. Some people prefer to live in the cyber world rather than the real world. People are creating their second life there. We can see by the trends of Internet Relay Chat (IRC) and Instant Messaging (IM) where it so a common thing now. Those were the old days where people ask for you your email. Now people are asking for Sykpe, AIM, Yahoo or MSN. With these tools human develops their own personality. Some IMs even provides customization of oneself – known better as Avatar.

A sample of Yahoo Messenger created avatar. Avatars are now becoming the in-thing giving the rise of Avatar Marketing.

The blogging phenomena also shot up where internet users are now their own writer in a way. One can project their true feelings or even creates their Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde online. The possibilities are so much cause we can be anything we want to.

Online games are also one of the main development on internet personalities. Popular online games such as World of Warcraft (WoW), Guild Wars, Ragnarok Online (RO) and others have boosted the growth of the virtual person.

People have their own personalities now they are give a chance to create their personalities again. It is like living giving a chance a second chance. I do agree with some people saying that sometimes they make a mistake in life or commit something in life, there is no turning back. Instead of living their life, they turn to the cyber world. Actually according to a survey done recently the virtual world can actually satisfy the needs and also gives pleasure to the users and helps in relaxing the mind. This means that the cyber world gives people easy access to self fulfillment. Like it or not. The virtual world is here to stay and we need to embrace it and make good use of it. Pure internet business models have also emerged to a multi-dollar industry. Avatar Marketing, Online Gaming, Online Ads are some of them.

One may ask "What is the right personality for me on the virtual world?"The answer is it is all your own choice. As long as it benefits physically or mentally and help mankind along the way it is considered beneficial. Something that is hurting someone virtually or in reality is something that must be avoided. There is always pros and cons, it is us as a human being on how we manage it.

Maneuver your own life

Wondering down the winding road

Carrying a few crump of bread

Seeing a bunch of children amused

Laughing and at a fiddle the a lad

Approaching the funny looking lad

I asked

What are so special when I am sad?

Lonely, hungry and the bread taste bad

Should I go on? Or being moved?

Is there a Promised Land?

The lad answered

You are on the Promised Land

You might think I am mad

But I am just giving you my card

Call me when I am needed

I took and looked

The lad was no where to be found

Just a few words on the card

“Sourness is Sweetness good friend,

Which friend – you decide.”

- Friend who is always listening

written by xetajones


"Life is sour at times."
"Please help me find a good name too" -nameless

More Stress? Do Not Be Tension!

Tension? read these...

The moment you are in tension
You will lose your attention
Then you are in total confusion
And you’ll feel irritation
This may spoil your personal relation
Ultimately, you won’t get co-operation
And get things into complication
Then your BP may raise caution
And you have to take medication
Why not try understanding the situation
And try to think about the solution
Many problems will be solved by discussion
Which will work out better in your profession
Don’t think it’s my free suggestions
It is only for your prevention
If you understand my intention
You’ll never come again into tension!!!

-anonymous

Look he is in tension. Please don't. My new mascot still goes without a name. Any ideas?

Master of Imitation - Humans

When we are at the age of two it is when we human beings learn to walk. This is the stage we need to master all our movement right as seen by others. We humans imitate.

If we do not see and imitate how are we going to learn to walk? If we do not imitate how people talk, how are we going to talk?

Our language, our lifestyle, our fashion our movements and even our belief are all imitation. The previous generations have created this and we are just followers. Not many people here are creating something new in this world. Just look at today. How many history moving creations are there compared to the olden days? How many leaders are there in this world? And how many followers are there? In other words leaders =risk and followers =security.

Let say if a shoe company wants to introduce the type of shoe into Africa, the first mover company is taking all the risks. If they are successful most company will want a share of the pie. So any of you want to be the first?

A fake SD card and a real SD card. Almost every popular brand has an imitation

In our daily lives, we see lots of imitation goods around us. Some like it some don’t. Famous brands in fashion in equipments are imitated and sold in a much cheaper price? Is that right or wrong? Is imitation a bad thing? There is always both side of the coin. Imitation do “so-called” disrupt the earnings of the starter. But does it really affect them that much? But on the other hand imitation does help the starter in creating awareness. Will so many people know of LV products if not for the imitations? These indirect advertising actually helped LV-A free advertising for the original brand.

Now the human imitation comes in.

“If all my friends have LV bags, I should have one too” Is that thinking called original? Your LV bag may be original but are you an original or different human being? Why not just take a pouch and be original? Some people might say that they do not like imitation and wants to be original. The bad news is over 90% of people imitates consciously and unconsciously. They are just contradicting their own selves. If you want to be original you need to go against the norm and create something new like a new trend or fashion and not following.

Breast implants. Is Salma Hayek's original? Are those genuine or...?

As the saying goes- “follow by example”. We follow what people do and we try to create something that is quite similar to it and call it our own. This is where the word –“innovation” comes along. We copy some we add some we subtract some and we called it out original work.

To find a creator nowadays is so difficult. Creation is like creating a new language a new phenomenon that is out of this world. So are you a creator, an innovator or an imitator? You decide.

Man & Women: Equality?

The conflict between the sexes is just a waste of time?

In this 21^st century, the society is always stressing on the equality of the genders. The controversial battle of the sexes is always there. Come to think of it, is there such a thing called equality of gender in this world?

Equality is hard to achieve in a society unless communism is practiced. Even with communism it is also hard to achieve equality. What else can we expect from equality of genders? Man and women are basically different physically and mentally. So how can we be the same and enjoy the same benefits?

One think I was laughing at since a long time is the Ministry of Women, Family and Community Development in Malaysia. Why can’t there be a Ministry for Man & Family? Is that called equality? How come there is one for women but not men?

Discrimination of sexes is also practiced by widely without us actually noticing. Just pick up any newspaper and go to the employment section and you will see. “Male preferred” or “female preferred”. Some ads are even worse “Only for female age between 18 and 28”. Where is equality in this word that the women are fighting for?

Women are fighting for their rights. They say they want to be entrepreneurs too. Yes no one is stopping you. How come I never hear women fighting to become construction workers, logistics workers or crane drivers etc? The world should be equal right? Only want to sit in office with air-conditioner and you called that equality?

The thing here is there is no such thing as equality. To those female movement groups just open your eyes and see properly. Don’t just put it under the name of protection of women or women rights. If you want equality please look at it as a whole. If you want to share, share the whole portion. Do not just want the cream and you called that sharing. Ask yourself is there equality in this world? Why some people are so poor and why are so rich? You decide.

I’m not against any gender. I feel that we are here as male or female for a specific reason and some things could not be changed. We need to learn to live life harmoniously and not keep on fighting for gender rights. Some things like getting pregnant is only for the females whereas some jobs are just for the males. Why do we want to fight about it? It is better to help each other to achieve something which can be folds better than fighting who can do it better.

Making The Right Move At The Right Time

In life there is something call stage of life. If you miss something in life and you do not do it right that is all. There is no turning back. I myself have missed lots of steps in life and hoped that I have made the right thing at the right time.

Life is simple but sometimes it is just out of our control because we made a mistake and did not take the right action. I have seen sons and daughters who disobey and fight with their parents. If you sit down and understand the situation. The cause is the parents. If you see a young lad sending his parents to old folks home, chances are he will be in the old folks home too.

We need to take the right action at the right time. As the case above the parents will not be able to educate the children again if they miss the chance. Things that are passed are out. That’s make the difference of an educated child and vice versa.

As humans step in the teenage life and young adult there is too lots of things that you need to make right. Too early or too late does have consequences. We need to act and grow according to our mental growth. There is no return if you reach the stage of self realization to fast which I have and I do hope I was like other people who can enjoy their life much better at that time. Sometimes thinking too much is not good. You may be wiser but you won’t be doing the right thing or won’t be enjoying your life.

Party? Have children? Switch jobs? What is the right time? Do not make things too fast or too slow. Then the question: “When is the right time?” I wish I can tell you that cause the right time to do the right thing might differs. I do have a rough outline which I created and hope it can somewhat provide some guideline based on personal opinions other view are always accepted if it make sense. The table will be updated accordingly.

Age Group	Thing(s) to be done
0-10 (Infant Toddler Elementary)	The basic movement (crawl, walk, fall) Understanding of language and words. Basic understanding of relationship. Study hard, Learn the most and enjoy life. Naiveness is a bliss *At this age group you will not be reading this if yes there is a genius on board.
11-20 (Adolescence and puberty)	The vast development mentally and physically. The understanding of love. The stage of curiosity and discovery. The understanding of value. The understanding of sex. Make have with what you want to do at this stage but remember not to do illegal stuffs. Explore the most even you are misguided at time there is always time to go back.
21-30 (Young adult)	The stage of maturation. The thinking starts to settle down. Some even reach the stage of self actualization. Some of the attributes or characteristics that needs attention: Self-control - restraint, emotional control. Stability - stable personality, strength. Independence - ability to self-regulate. Seriousness - ability to deal with life in a serious manner. Responsibility - accountability, commitment and reliability. Method/Tact - ability to think ahead and plan for the future, patience. Endurance - ability and willingness to cope with difficulties that present themselves. Experience - breadth of mind, understanding. Objectivity - perspective and realism Mistakes should be less here. The last stage to learn the most or to venture.
31-50 (Mid Age)	Settled down in terms of their sense of identity and place in the world, be raising a family, and have established career. Mid-life crisis. The process of Individuation. Some characteristics of mid life are: search of an undefined dream or goal desire to achieve a feeling of youthfulness acquiring of unusual or expensive items such as clothing, muscle, cars, jewelery, gadgets, etc. paying extra special attention to physical appearance need to spend more time alone or with certain peers Change the crisis by better understanding of your own selves. Religion may help at this stage. Just ask yourself what do you want in life and make do with it with the time you have.
51> (Senior citizen)	Nearing the average lifespan of human being. Retirement. Enjoy life at its best. Death is getting nearer and it is a fact.

Enjoy life while you can as you will never know the date you are leaving. Appreciate the people around you. Tell them you love them and tell them thank you for being around cause sometimes it might be the last time you are able to tell them. I still wonder why so many people like to walk over dead bodies to achieve success. You will be one dead body too sooner or later, why harm people?

Must we follow? -Norms of the society

Kissing in public and kissing of the same gender? Is it acceptable? Is that wrong?
Some countries permit it some not. What do you think?

There is one strange system at work in our society. People create norms. People around us tell you what is right what is wrong. People formulate systems for you to follow. Society tells you what is right and what is wrong. Culture also creates guidelines to live your life. Many people are comfortable in the so call norms without asking any question. It is just like the law of a country. Just follow do not ask any question. These people are the blind followers.

Have you ever wondered why you should wear cloth when you go out? Why can’t you be naked and walk around? It is your body by the way. There are many more common laws that the society sets which the society perceives it is not good and not accepted. It is just in some countries public kissing is prohibited. Having pre-marital sex is prohibited and so on. Will these events disturb you if you have an open mind? Are they actually distracting? What is distracting and not it is all up in the head. After you have seen many naked people around and accept that the fact that it is their freedom you would think otherwise and accept it as a norm. In the prehistoric age we humans are running around nakedly and we do not feel shy or anything wrong about it. “It is all up in the head. It is all up in the head”. Why are we so selfish to restrict the rights of other human beings?

How short is short? Wearing mini-vinyl skirt in public is acceptable?
Some say it creates the desire. Who control the desire? Some people may have the desire even someone is cloth entirely like a ninja? -Its all in the mind

I do agree some norms are there for to protect the human rights or to fulfill our sense of security. People who hurt people physically will have to face punishment because they are against the will of another person. On the other hand, there are many norms that are just there because they are perceive “morally correct or incorrect” by a society. Let your mind work for a while and you will get what I mean. What is correct? What is incorrect?

Some people might argue that something that is correct is written by a religion for the well being of human being. I do not deny that religion does help us as a total human being and to be civilized. Do the teachings applicable to our today world? Aren’t those people teaching written by human being? We as a human is not a perfect creature. Those teaching or believed can be manipulated by this particular group of people for their own interest. One easy experiment is to create a rumor and for sure you will not get the exact rumor that you have told after it was past around 5 persons. What do expect than for writings or teachings that have been passed for generations?

Humans are the one that creates norms. Do you believe everything of a human next to you that have been telling tales for the past half and hour? What is right then? It is all up for you to decide. We have the brains to think and evaluate. Just be open. Have an open mind and you will see things better. Does this particular doing affect you? Does it cause harm to you? If not, it is that person own freedom. Why force people doing something? Who are you to decide his/her rights or wrongs?

Mercy for the flood victims of Johor

The clouds in the southern states of Peninsular Malaysia (more rain is expected)
-pic courtesy of Malaysian Meteorological Department

The flood situation in the southern states of Malaysia such as Johor and Malacca are having the first time high rising flood in decades. Condolences to all the family and people involve in the flood situation. Please do remember that your life is the most important of all not your belongings.

Some pointers on actions to do during a flood:

1. Look for rising water. Remember that the most important thing to do when the water reaches half a feet is to get you important documents and important things in your car and go to higher places. Please lock your house when you leave!
2. Evacuate the elders and children first.
3. Come back later by foot (if you know how to swim) to move your valuable things to higher places.
   
4. Evacuate your house if the water rises up to the waist level. Do not take chance. Do not go to the second floor. You will be trapping yourself.
   
5. Be careful of fast moving water when wading in the water. Move in groups to for security purposes.

(Thanks to a friend whose house is prone to flood)

The total rainfall is in Peninsular Malaysia for the past few days. Danger alert!
-pic courtesy of Malaysian Meteorological Department

Look at the better side of life. Nothing can be done or predicted from natural disaster. What are damages the flood caused has been caused. At least we are still breathing and we can still obtain the things we have with this two strong arms and a strong will.

Meaning of Enjoyment

Party? Sex? Shopping? Traveling? What so you really enjoy?

Enjoy life does not necessary mean enjoyment with lots of partying and booze. It does not necessary mean physical enjoyment. I have friends that mentioned that they will enjoy if they go overseas for a tour. Is that the only enjoyment and being happy? In the Maslow hierarchy of needs we will be satisfied only our needs are fulfilled. Every human being has needs and wants. No doubt we need to fulfill our needs to survive. The thing here is who determine our wants? It is not Maslow. It is we ourselves. We human are the ones creating wants. The higher the wants are the higher we need to climb to achieve happiness.

If you see the world in a lighter note and do not restrict your mind to materialistic enjoyment, there are lots of things around you that can make you happy. Happiness and enjoyment are closely related. If you enjoy something you will be happy. Even daily gardening or cleaning can be enjoyed fully. The key here is your own self. The mind tell you that you are enjoying you will enjoy and vice versa.

On thing I found out that enjoyment can be found even at the doorsteps- our family. Spend some time doing things together working on a project or hobby can be very rewarding to the mind. What people here lack of today is the basic enjoyment from the family institution. People are too busy with their daily lives just to find money and find that they have to spend money to relax and unwind. Just take some time off doing something with your sibling, parents or even children and you will learn to enjoy the wonders that can be created.

Enjoyments can be anything. Ones man’s meat is another man’s poison. Some may prefer to do some hobby or something light to pass time. As long as it does not harm anyone it can be considered a good hobby (will be on the next post on norms).

"Hi! I am enjoying life. Are you?" - Photo courtesy of my friend's son TLT

Be happy with what you have and you will see a whole new world. There won’t be happiness if you are comparing. Some are richer some are poorer. Some are happier some are sadder. There is no point envying and getting jealous. There won’t be an end and you are only seeing it at one angle. Put thing aside and start to enjoy the world. Even simple things are worth a laugh. Laugh out heartily and influence the people around you to do so. When people around you are happy and when you feel down you will feel happy too. Life is short. Why worry? Be happy and enjoy!

Moments in Life

From birth till today, have you done anything significant to the society? What have you achieve in life? Do you enjoy the achievements? Is that something you really like? Lots of people may tell you to follow your dream. Follow your dream. Is life so easy- just following and work towards your dream?

Some people dream of money. Some dream of fame. Some dream of something else. Is that really your dream? Will money and fame give you happiness and true friendship? Or is that the society that makes you believes in something? When you are not intact with the society will your dream be the same.

Let’s take some people who dream of money- to become rich. They work hard everyday to achieve the so called financial freedom in their early years in order to be happy at the later stage of life. They is one question they need to up themselves, is there a tomorrow? Life is such a fragile thing; there is nothing certain in this world. Being able to have a positive thinking is good but sacrificing your younger years for the older years is something to be questioned. There are people who are so insane looking for money and fame until the family institution or breakdown in friendship. What if the health is affected later in the later years? They will be spending their money and their older years trying to be healthy than enjoying. These Is that worth the price of gaining money, glory and fame?

“Money is not everything but everything is money” Is that true? Money can buy you the best medicine and the best doctor. Agreed, it may even save your life in the future with the advancement in medical technology. But, have you ever wondered the quality in your life? What is the point being living long if you are not really happy? Some people might say if you are rich you can be happiness? Is that true happiness? True love? Even if it is true you might think people around you stick close to you because of your money. There is something money just cannot buy. People can fake they like you but ask your self, “How many true friends do you have?” You will only find true love and true friend when you are at the downs of your life.

10 years of quality, real happiness is worth than 100 years of suffering with anxiety.

Life is not all about money, fame and glory. It is about your life- Your own life story. It may not be necessary a story of a wealthy man. We are the actors and actress of our own stage. It is just for a while. After the show the curtains will come down. A simple story than can touch lives and generations to come is the best. Make a good show out of it as you only have this one given chance.